"I remember it hurt, looking at her hurt"
I already found myself fixating on something that is fake.
This film was a whole new kind of rom com, I discovered pain, hurt, emotion, whilst laughing. Josh Boone took something so cliche and made it so loveable. Yes, it had the usual story line. Divorced parents, ones not over the other, one of the kids hates one of their parents the other one doesn't. The 'looser' of a son gets his true love and the other finds true love after she thought she never could. But...it's phenomenal.
Rusty and Kate.
Teenage love is hard, we all know that. But it's not just the story of Rusty having sex and finally been happy. It shows that even the prettiest of them all, the most popular girl(s) have problems. Kate? She's a drug addict, border line alcoholic and she's only 16. Rusty discovers that even something that wasn't Kate's fault made his first love shatter, he experienced heart break; for the first time in his life.
Samantha and Lou
Sam never got that one night out of her head.
Her mum leaving her...
"And I remember Martin saying, what about Bill? What if Bill see's? And my mom replied, I don't care...I don't care"
Sam puts up this barrier, this wall , covers her hurt. She doesn't want to feel hurt or pain, she wants to feel numb to it. She only finds 'love' will burn down her wall and make the pain come back. Relationships, trust? No, she never wants that. But Lou, he teaches her that it's ok to hurt, to feel.
She doesn't want to have these feelings, she's never let anyone in.
There is a part in the movie where Lou plays Sam his favourite song, (Elliot Smith- Between The Bars) Sam closes her eyes. You can see how this scares her so much.
"I'm so scared right now"
"I know, I know"
"I don't wanna get hurt"
"I'm not gonna hurt you"
I've never seen someone, so tightly packed and uncomfortable about 'love'. She is so 'stuck in love' she feels like love is a trap, that it only sets you up for hurt and betrayal.
I love that even though like any other cliche rom com, they fall in love, she doesn't just 'fall in love', she shows us that it's ok to love and even though she got damaged, there is hope.
'Lou's wasn't like the rest'. He didn't give up, he felt so intrigued by how someone so young could feel such hatred towards love. Samantha writes a book called 'Under the Pink', Lou questions whether her attitude towards love and marriage is just for the book, or really has an impact on how she is towards love. Sam seems driven towards Lou, only to find that Lou's mum is dying of a brain tumour.
Lou goes behind Sam's back and invites Sam's mother to her book signing of 'Under the Pink'. She obviously hates him for it, ending their relationship. I find the strongest yet emotional part of the film is when his Lou's mum dies. It's such a powerful part of the film.
(Lou's mum dies)
Erica and Bill
Sam despises her mum for leaving, but Bill did the same when Sam was younger. And Erica(Sam and Rusty's mum) said to Bill...
"If I ever do anything as stupid as that, wait for me"
3 years later and he was still waiting for her.
Thanks Giving, Erica comes back. Sam's wall gets put down and her emotions crawl in.
I loved the film, I thought it was inspiring, it made me see things very clear. It showed me that even if you have been hurt, good does come of it. And you might be confused, but life is about taking that huge step and been uncomfortable, it's ok to be scared of love and it's most definitely acceptable to be stuck in it.